Thursday, 23 June 2011

loved and lost : Gain back

Hello friends,
We all have loved at some part of our lives with those who have either become a part of our lives or someone else's.I always wonder why do people love and then loose : Is it the loss of the love or the loss of determination to standby one's love.When we fall in love we tend to be swept away in tides of imaginative feelings and experiences:Experiences which are brimming with love and love and vibrant emotions.But sweeping away in this tide one tends to have left the shore of reality far behind where not only does our existence stands but also our real selves:A world where we are what we are,our responsibilities and our birth relations stand:A place where fulfilling our dreams of a satisfactory love stands stranded : Why?Because sometimes we come to know that the boy is not of our age or the girl is not perfect for us in all situations or is of another caste or country or of lesser or very higher strata of society or it was just one of the affairs among others:It is this reality friends one should always live in immediately after falling in love because when either of you know what you are in real self with or without your blood relations is the moment when you can soar to the heights of heaven together:To a world where not only do you know that is where you wanted to be with the one you love but are also assured that when you perch down on earth you know you have made the right choice:A choice not to think of twice:A choice shared by others and a choice you will standby in all odd situations till it cements its existence :That my friends is the way to love.It ain't a joke but the very reason of our existence:Be careful its love :)

Monday, 20 June 2011

Love marriage

"I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where, I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep it is your eyes that close."
Hello friends,
Love,love when touches lives makes it beautiful : Love just leaves you enchanted and imaginative and when you experience these things in reality its love marriage : Marriage to the one whom you have always loved and desired for : All your dreams and  desires come true when you see him with pride beside you forever.Well,what experiences I am going to share might be true to most of you in love and the ones who married their love ,but I still want to experience the beauty of my relation in writing.The one whom I fell in love with became my heart beat and this was felt by me through every part of my body when I was taking seven rounds around the holy fire in our wedding holding his hands in whom I had given myself till eternity,his filling my hair partition with sacred red color and a black bead chain across my neck completed me with tears of joy rolling down my cheeks :An experience incomparible .This feeling extended as I left my city and boarded my first ever flight journey with him beside me and as I stepped down on to my new homeland,I touched the soil of it as it was my new home,my husband's homeland.As I reached his home and stood in front of it to be welcomed I felt the door,the walls,the sunbeam in his house and stepped in with a feeling of pride as it will be the house wherein i will live n die in and raise my family for the rest of my life:My home:My treasure.My first bike ride with him holding his shoulder from behind purchasing grocery and roaming leaves me mesmerized as I am a wife now : His better half that would not lay any stone unturned to make him a complete soul.Holding the hands of the one you have always loved and holding on till you grow old is the priceless experience which I am living to the fullest.
Hold on to him every moment you get , feel him and your life in his home : Value it every single moment and that's when you feel that its not just that you have married but that you have done a love marriage :)
"The more you invest in a marriage, the more valuable it becomes."                  

Friday, 17 June 2011

What is pain ?

Hello friends ,
What is pain?
Is it when we see a poor young child shivering in cold while we cozy off in our AC cars or enjoy coffee at Baristaa
Or is it when we see someone get murdered in broad daylight while we hush off from there to save ourselves
Or is it when we read of how a minor was raped while grazing her cattle while we turned on to another interesting headline 
Or is it when we see a needy eating out of a garbage while we pass by munching burgers 
Or is it when we come across the news of innocent policemen n army personnel being killed in ambush while we pass on to see more important news such as a review of a newly released movie
Or is it when a young bride victim of dowry breathes her last in her parents arms while we complaint of how our in-laws interfere in our methods of cooking
Or is it when a young girl is being touched inappropriately in public while we move aside covering our girls 
Or is it when we see a blind man selling paper tissues at metro while we pass by thinking that we have better quality one
Or is it when you see people walking their old parents around while we lie to our parents to meet our lovers
Or is it when you see a young girl selling bangles on street while you are buzy bargaining with her the price
Or is it when you see people standing for hours to wish birthday to stars or is it when u see the solitary parents of our martyrs remebering their loved ones while going through their chilhood album all alone in a dark room
What is it? What is the real pain : well my friends real pain is what we feel when we think emphatically:"If anyone has material possesion and sees his brother in need but has no pity on him, then how can the love of God be expected by  him?"
So friends, next time you feel your self proclaimed pain think of those who are truly in PAIN : REACH THE HAVE NOTS WITH YOUR HAVES and give them a life to live for and not a death to ask for :)

Friday, 10 June 2011

The sacred saath vachaan

Hello friends,

Hinduism being a symbolic religion, most rituals and ceremonies have a symbolic meaning to them 

People following Hinduism believe that if a married couple walks seven steps around the fire of the havankund, they will remain together for the lifetime. Generally, before taking the seven vows, the bride is seated to the right hand side of the groom. After taking the pheras, the bride shifts to the left side of the groom - this symbolizes that she is now closer to his heart. In most of the Hindu weddings, the newly married couple takes seven pheras or rounds, around the sacred fire. In the majority of the seven pheras, the groom leads the first four pheras, while he is preceded by the bride during the last three pheras. But have you wondered why only seven pheras or rounds around fire because number 7 has a great significance:

 let  us know the significance of 7 in this world:
-Seven colours of sunlight.
-Seven notes of music (sa, re, ga, ma, pa, dha, ni)
-Seven world above the earth.
-Seven world below  the earth.
-Seven seas and seven islands.
-Seven important matters/ substances.
-Seven important functions (evacuation of excrement, mouth cleaning, bath, meditation, meals, remembering god and sleep)
-Seven respectable ( God, Teacher, Father, Mother, Sun, Fire and Guest)
-Seven evils (Jealousy, anger, affection, malice, greed and bad thoughts.)
-Seven baths (Mantra bath, sun bath, fire bath, air bath, divine bath, mental bath and mercy bath.)
Due to the importance of number seven our divine dignitaries, included seven rounds and seven promises in a wedlock ceremony.Do we the married ones remember the seven pheras : if not, then following are the meaning of seven pheras : lets see how far are we practicing them

The Seven Vows:
You will offer me food and be helpful in every way. I will cherish you and provide welfare and happiness for you and our children.
I am responsible for the home and all household responsibilities.

Together we will protect our house and children.
I will be by your side as your courage and strength. I will rejoice in your happiness. In return, you will love me solely.

May we grow wealthy and prosperous and strive for the education of our children. May our children live long.
I will love you solely for the rest of my life, as you are my husband. Every other man in my life will be secondary. I vow to remain chaste.

You have brought sacredness into my life, and have completed me. May we be blessed with noble and obedient children.
I will shower you with joy, from head to toe. I will strive to please you in every way I can.

Groom: You are my best friend, and staunchest well-wisher. You have come into my life, enriching it. God bless you.
I promise to love and cherish you for as long as I live. Your happiness is my happiness, and your sorrow is my sorrow. I will trust and honor you, and will strive to fulfill all your wishes.

May you be filled with joy and peace.
I will always be by your side.

We are now husband and wife, and are one. You are mine and I am yours for eternity.
As God is witness, I am now your wife. We will love, honor and cherish each other forever. 

I m truly blessed like others to have taken these vows with the person whom I love and also who will help me fulfill them :)

Monday, 6 June 2011

The power of prayer

Hello friends,

This is the story of a girl who was very close to her family.Being the younger one,she was always doted upon.She had everything one could want for : A loving mother,a responsible father and a caring sister.When she grew old ,she fell in love with a boy of the same qualities and values : Qualities and values she had been brought up with.But sadly,her family didn't approve of the boy as he was not of their community.But ,what did the girl do?Did she leave him?Certainly not : She along with the boy sweared to fight a silent battle : A battle against the society and the family's conventional thinking about intercaste marriages.They chose to remain isolated of eachother and serve their parents without uttering a word against all the accusations they heard of each other in their respective families.The girl was orphaned of all the love she had got from her family,but she also knew that as her love is silent ,so is her family's.The father,whose scooter she washed daily before he left for office and with whom she used to go to temple standing besides him worshipping. All of a sudden he started standing away from her and worshipping : and here she was looking at him from the other corner of the temple watching his pained eyes which prayed for getting his daughter back :and in between her father and her was the Almighty.Daily evening she looked at him,with tears in her eyes to bless her not only with the boy she loved but also to bring the day soon wherein she could stand beside her father and pray.She knew that her parents were not wrong ,but she also knew that she was not wrong : So she devoted herself in the service to lord : Every morning and evening  she would decorate her forehead with the sacred red color of god symbolising her love for her lover and the blessing of God : She talked to the Almighty : Praying for peace in family and union of the boy's family with hers.This continued for 3 1/2 years.Years of sincere devotion to god and respectful devotion to parents worked at last.All of a sudden one day,the girl's dad decided to meet the boy and within one hour of meeting, he was impressed by the boy and the next day was decided for the wedding:She had passed her early youth in craving for reuniting with her loved ones and here she was in her late youth getting married to the boy of her and her family's choice.But how could she forget the one who blessed her with this happiness,the one:The almighty who consoled her and gave her and the family patience to survive the ordeal.In this respect,She decided to sacrifice her grand wedding celebrations,which every girl's dream off and got married in a small temple with her and the boy's family and in presence of the Giver:The Lord and today she is happily married for 2 years with the boy and with both the families closely knit together.But what about her prayer :  the request to stand beside her dad and worship in the temple.Did it get fulfilled too?Indeed,today whenever I visit my native place I and my father visit the temple,we stand besides each other along with my husband and worship:On one side, my father and on other side, the blessing of God : My husband and a content family.What can I ask for more : I am content.This is my story Friends.
But, do remember from my story that when you want something and crave for it desperately , the whole universe conspires to get it for you.But, it is equally important that in the pursuit of achieving the target you should not hurt the ones around you and always listen to your heart and choose the right path.

Thursday, 2 June 2011

The healing power of touch

Hello friends,

                    Touch has a memory.
                                                      John Keats

A Touch calms us down, it is healing in the most primitive form. A touch in the form of an embrace or a kiss or holding hands does wonders,it freshens the day of people leaving for work , relaxes them when they get back home tired.A hand shake or an embrace to a friend or known one leaves pleasant feeling in our minds and as well as theirs.But, so far so said,do we really do it regularly,a few might.But for others they treasure these moments only for special occasions,occasions of bithday,anniversaries,festivals or someone's achievement. This mean that we get to hold on to our dear ones just 3-5 times  a year,that's sad. I realised this fact only after I got married. I came to stay with my mom for a few days,One day,I accidently  held her hand during a chat,and a shiver ran down my body as I realised that all my 28 yrs of my stay with my mom I never had held her hand or embraced her often , and here I was today,holding my mother's hand only to see her visibly wrinkled,frail hands:Hands which served us the whole lives.Friends,from there on I always held or embraced my parents by some or the other pretext.I still remember the last time I held my dad's hand was when I was young and he would take me along with him for a candy,thats it.Its so sad, that most of you like me must have not realised this fact till we get separated from our loved ones.But,I learnt from my ignorance and now I always embrace and greet my loved ones ,this makes my relations immortal.A touch brings a feeling of contentment,fulfillment and also a feeling of belongingness .Just try it, hold the hands of your loved ones when you talk or hug them when they are leaving for work or school.It works wonders and you know that.
"Everyone's got a heart.  Find a way to touch it!"