Monday, 15 August 2011

To sister with love

Hello friends,
As I celebrated Rakshbandhan this 13th august far away from my elder sister , I realized the importance of the sacred thread the Rakhi tied around the wrist of the one whom you love : Your siblings and my sister Billu as I always called her : Born an year ahead of me , made her responsible and caring and protective for everyone around in the family and especially me : Her younger sister . I have seen her grown up , succeeding in school, wining trophies ,scoring highest scores in all subject and I always the one in school watching her orate,debate,race and receive trophies.I always clapped for her and took pride in knowing that I have a sister like mine.I have rightly used the word pride because she was always besides me with her arms across
 me,protecting me, be it from the school boys from approaching me,hiding my poor scores in mathematics from parents and when discovered wiping my tears off after I being scolded and encouraging me, protecting from the rouges, always keeping a watch from her class window across to mine to see that I am safe and happy.As we attained adolescence,I thought I was grown up and could do without her,so I made a lot of friends : Friends,who slowly came so close to me that I started keeping secrets of my infatuations from her and other little insignificant facts of the past.But blood relation are blood relation,when my secrets were out, I was scolded ,not talked to,but its the blood relation : Can be upset,but never will disown you : I slowly realized this fact that one has to be faithful to family first and then to the outside world.When my sister came of marriageable age, 3 1/2 years had passed by to find a good match for her irrespective of she being a brilliant and strong charactered girl.My dad was loosing hope in finding a good match , my sister was not willing to marry and leave us all but also wanted dad to be free of all his worries as any responsible daughter would.She helped my dad in finding matches for her by regularly visiting internet cafes for the matrimonial links,spending hours in front of the monitor,but to no use.At night,we used to sit out together watching at the sky and talking : God is watching us and surely he will take our parents worry away:Saying it she had tears in her eyes as she was expecting against hope : But then at the end of 3 1/2 years she found the best match : A match which had wiped all the tears and sweat of all those years passed by.When I came of marriageable age I fell in love with a boy against my family wishes:She could not confide in my decision as it was she and my family who always took decisions for me from the very start,but I was happy about one thing that I dint hide my love from my family and told them right away as in so many years their love and care had made me responsible enough to stand by my decision and wait for their consent , it took 3 1/2 years exactly as my sister to get acceptance for my  marriage , but what's in destiny can't be changed,as she was far away she couldn't realize that her younger sister was getting married the very next day my family had consented : she tried desperately to convince my husband that she ( I ) is the only sister I have please give me a months time as I want her to get married the way she deserves , any sister deserves,let me decorate my younger sister as a bride with my own hands but the previous circumstances had been such that my husband found hard to believe her words , I also requested him but as all was finalized and as my parents too said to get married at the set date and not to postpone it. Realizing  I was getting married she immediately along with her husband and her young one drove whole night and day but failed to reach in time and had to meet me at my in-laws home all decked up as a bride:she was shocked to see me , her sister ,her young one all so decked up as bride and surrounded by new family members.she still had those worries of whether I am safe and happy in her watery eyes when she embraced me.She while seeing me and my husband off the railway station requested him with folded hands to take care of me and never let me cry just like an elder sister would.Today we are happy in our lives and still bonded by the sacred thread of Rakhi also what it stands for even if far away.
That's my sister Deepti : My guardian angel ,My life , My God

1 comment:

  1. Amazing Divya.You have summed your whole life here, and the ups and downs in your relationship with Deepti.The best part is,you are still together,and would always be.That's because you share an amazing bond and even if you disagree,one of you would always bow down to make the other happy.I am sure she is equally proud of you,and would always regret not being there on your special day.I am proud to know your family and be a part of it.All credit goes to your Mom and Dad,for bringing you people up in this way.God bless you all.Amen.