papa papa :)

Hello friends ,
We all are proud owners of a very special relationship in our lives : A relationship with a Dad : My dad as is known in our family had seen all the hardships in his life, be it his clothes which were made out of a postman's sack(as my grandfather was a postmaster and was not very well off) in which he carries letters,his education which had to be stopped from pursuing higher studies due to shortage of funds,but still securing a position of 17 in the entire Lucknow university,working at the tender age of 17 to run his family of 6 members including 3 sisters and a younger brother:He like any responsible  elder son contributed throughly from his heart and pocket to get them educated and married : My father,stood  by his family in thick and thin.But you  see nothing is permanent in this transistory life,so are the relations,after loosing his younger brother to cancer and his father , he was all broken up and as the other family members flourished in their lives and enjoyed all the luxuries of their lives they slowly forgot their elder brother : As he was just a government servant and they, heads of govt.institutions now.They started taking him for granted , his kids would be treated with partiality as they were not as well  off them .But still my father never let us see his heart breaks in front of us as he was our father,he had to be our hero :He stood strong against all odds:Odds inexplainable and numerous.Though sometimes I had seen him talking to my mother with tears in his eyes that, look what did I earn in my life ,my own family is not with me,whom will I look for in my old age,my mom always comforted him saying that you have two daughters,but then he would say that they are daughters once married would leave and get buzy in their lives,but my mom always said that they are not like others,they are like your two sons:Responsible for you:Just watch. Today, when he is 61 yr old grey haired,retired,riding his scooter,a scooter which he would never had thought of replacing with a car as he had two daughters to be dropped off at school or college or to be married off.Now that we are married , he still does not do away with it as that's what remained faithful to him be it in arranging for his daughter's wedding or riding them to their marriage locations.True, its said that a man is known by the company he keeps : A company of his wife,his daughters,his son-in-laws and his 5 yr old grandson and yes, his scooter:We stood besides him when all others shed away.Today,My dad,never feels any regrets about his life or about loosing his close relations because he is proud that today when he needs someone to care for him,he knows he can count on six persons in his life:His only treasured treasure of all his 61 years :  A treasure which will always keep him rich : Thank you dad :We all are proud of you :)

To sister with love

Hello friends,
As I celebrated Rakshbandhan this 13th august far away from my elder sister , I realized the importance of the sacred thread the Rakhi tied around the wrist of the one whom you love : Your siblings and my sister Billu as I always called her : Born an year ahead of me , made her responsible and caring and protective for everyone around in the family and especially me : Her younger sister . I have seen her grown up , succeeding in school, wining trophies ,scoring highest scores in all subject and I always the one in school watching her orate,debate,race and receive trophies.I always clapped for her and took pride in knowing that I have a sister like mine.I have rightly used the word pride because she was always besides me with her arms across
 me,protecting me, be it from the school boys from approaching me,hiding my poor scores in mathematics from parents and when discovered wiping my tears off after I being scolded and encouraging me, protecting from the rouges, always keeping a watch from her class window across to mine to see that I am safe and happy.As we attained adolescence,I thought I was grown up and could do without her,so I made a lot of friends : Friends,who slowly came so close to me that I started keeping secrets of my infatuations from her and other little insignificant facts of the past.But blood relation are blood relation,when my secrets were out, I was scolded ,not talked to,but its the blood relation : Can be upset,but never will disown you : I slowly realized this fact that one has to be faithful to family first and then to the outside world.When my sister came of marriageable age, 3 1/2 years had passed by to find a good match for her irrespective of she being a brilliant and strong charactered girl.My dad was loosing hope in finding a good match , my sister was not willing to marry and leave us all but also wanted dad to be free of all his worries as any responsible daughter would.She helped my dad in finding matches for her by regularly visiting internet cafes for the matrimonial links,spending hours in front of the monitor,but to no use.At night,we used to sit out together watching at the sky and talking : God is watching us and surely he will take our parents worry away:Saying it she had tears in her eyes as she was expecting against hope : But then at the end of 3 1/2 years she found the best match : A match which had wiped all the tears and sweat of all those years passed by.When I came of marriageable age I fell in love with a boy against my family wishes:She could not confide in my decision as it was she and my family who always took decisions for me from the very start,but I was happy about one thing that I dint hide my love from my family and told them right away as in so many years their love and care had made me responsible enough to stand by my decision and wait for their consent , it took 3 1/2 years exactly as my sister to get acceptance for my  marriage , but what's in destiny can't be changed,as she was far away she couldn't realize that her younger sister was getting married the very next day my family had consented : she tried desperately to convince my husband that she ( I ) is the only sister I have please give me a months time as I want her to get married the way she deserves , any sister deserves,let me decorate my younger sister as a bride with my own hands but the previous circumstances had been such that my husband found hard to believe her words , I also requested him but as all was finalized and as my parents too said to get married at the set date and not to postpone it. Realizing  I was getting married she immediately along with her husband and her young one drove whole night and day but failed to reach in time and had to meet me at my in-laws home all decked up as a bride:she was shocked to see me , her sister ,her young one all so decked up as bride and surrounded by new family members.she still had those worries of whether I am safe and happy in her watery eyes when she embraced me.She while seeing me and my husband off the railway station requested him with folded hands to take care of me and never let me cry just like an elder sister would.Today we are happy in our lives and still bonded by the sacred thread of Rakhi also what it stands for even if far away.
That's my sister Deepti : My guardian angel ,My life , My God

Weekday colours

Hello friends,

Here are some interesting facts from astrology about the colours to be adorned on particular weekdays,its interesting to know the following and if a believer do practice them :

Monday: Lord Shiva rules on Mondays. White is the colour for Mondays and therefore wearing white dresses and keeping white flowers at home are recommended on Mondays. It is a good day for men seeking favours from women and for making new friends. Taking honey and cucumber on Mondays is likely to yield good results.

Tuesday: Red being the most suitable colour for Tuesdays, wearing red clothes and keeping red flowers at home on the day may prove to be good. Men shall be courageous on the day and Tuesdays are the most suitable days to settle long-standing issues with the police and army. Administrative and hard laborious work should be undertaken on Tuesdays.

Wednesday: Ruled by Mercury, the day is most suitable for activities involving cerebral faculties, banking, finance, crop and grain trading and the acquisition of wealth. Wednesday is ideal for romance. All activities requiring cerebral input and intellectual faculties are recommended on Wednesdays. (…) The day is ideal for planting trees, as green is the colour of the day. Keeping green plants at home, wearing green clothes and eating beans and gota mungdal on Wednesday would ensure good effects.

Thursday: Though travelling is virtually a taboo on Thursdays, efforts to retrieve lost wealth and articles are expected to succeed if undertaken on Thursdays. Thursday is an excellent day to join any educational institute or to begin any academic pursuits; such activities should, however, be undertaken in the first half of the day. (…) Wearing yellow or off-white clothes, keeping yellow or off-white flowers at home and eating arhar dal, papaya and rice with ghee on Thursdays may bring in good results.

Friday: Shukra (Venus) and Bhubaneshwari Devi rule Friday and promise success, especially to women. Happiness permeates the day. Friendship blossoms and effortless gains are natural events of the day. Most suitable for the purchase of new vehicles, Friday is also a good day for medical treatments of serious illness, as the healing energies are most active on the day. It is a day for purchasing jewellery, precious stones, ornaments and new houses. (…) Very light blue or white are the colours of the day.

Saturday: If you are besieged by nagging interminable legal problems, launch an all out effort to resolve the problem on Saturdays. Any work initiated in the first half on Saturday carries a high possibility of success. anyone leading a pious lifestyle on the day, bereft of luxuries, eating sesame seed paste and grilled black brinjal, keeping purple flowers at home and wearing black clothes, is likely to receive success and blessings of Shani or Saturn.

Sunday: An excellent day to undertake journeys, Sunday is also an extremely conducive day on which to resolve old disputes. Sunday, being a day for celebration, is the most suitable day to feed and entertain friends and family. (…) If one wears pink or maroon clothes on Sundays one can make friends easily and will enhance one’s personality. It is the day which is most suitable to initiate discussions and negotiations about new projects with government officials.

love love love

Hello friends,
What exactly is love : Has anyone been able to fully define it or embrace it or had explored the limits of love only if it has any?What are the various forms of it, is it limitless,timeless,ageless and formless.Does it enclose only sighs,tears,laughter or some other emotions too.I have not yet been able to explore it fully,the more I think of it and live with it , it seems more and more profound to me : It seems so addictive to write about that it seems to pull me towards its own abyss. What seems to me love is in what i can see and feel.See and feel in a love of a father holding his young one's little finger and assisting him to walk or in a mother's wait for her kids to return back from school to serve hot lunch or of a wife ironing her husband's clothes while he leaves for office or seeing him off till he vanishes away from her sight or is it when a daughter plants a few seeds of Tulsi (a sacred plant of Hindus) plant given by her mother to be planted seven seas far away and the prayer of its sprouting and tears of joy rolling down the girl's eye to see it sprout and grow,as it grows in her mother's homeland or is it in the holding of a frail old man's hand by his or her grandchilren for a walk or is it when your pet sees you weep and licks off your rolling tears from your cheek or is it in the last kiss of a soldier to his motherland while he falls down in her lap saving her integrity or is it in the sight of your lover on seeing whom you always have a goose bump or is it that special first love and lost  feeling which still lurks in a corner of your heart or is it in the tiny hand of a daughter's hand which wipes off your sweat after a hard day's work or is it in a friend hiding your fault in front of a teacher and taking its blame or is it when you see a mother monkey embracing her young one against her breast or in Mirabai's love for the idol of Lord Krishna............what?what exactly is love,is it bound to a person,or to a bond .Of course not,it's much beyond all these mortal bonds, beyond anyone could have written about or imagined of .But, one things off sure, whatever love is, it is the very basis of humanity....something san (without) which we all would loose the threads of our connectivity and existence. love is something eternal and unconditional.The aspects and degree may change but not the essence.So if you have not loved you have not lived : Come Fall and grow in the essence of love and gift yourself and others a beautiful life :)

A husband : A wife : A soul

Hello friends,
Falling in new depths of love is not so easy after marriage whether loved or arranged , it requires a husband and a wife to be sincere,caring,trustworthy,respectable for his or her presence in each others lives.A husband was a son in past,someone who has seen how his father had kept his mother besides him with respect and would learn the same from what he has seen since his childhood and implements it even better in his responsibility of caring towards his wife.A husband takes the place of a girl's family:A place kept so highly revered by the girl.He walks into her life with many promises and she enters in his with many hopes.Hopes which are metaphysical:Hopes of looking at each other whenever but with pride,a feeling of belongingness presiding throughout the day and the years passing by,walking besides each other holding hands,looking into each others eyes seeing the new found eternal spark of love and passion for each other.A hope of getting absorbed into the new world build by him for her:A world where he sees himself growing old with her and being cared for.Her world belongs where he belongs,where she can see him fulfilling his promises and she seeing her hopes being painted by him onto the canvas of their lives with all the glorious colours.This not only creates a rainbow of vibrant colours around them but a husband and a wife also sees to it that there is always a shower of love to see that the rainbow surrounds them forever.This is the journey my friends,when travelled upon by both the partners besides each other fulfilling each other's hopes and promises,painting ones lives with hues of passion and dedication inturn leading them to a point where a husband becomes a part of a wife's soul and a wife his.A body of two to see but a soul of one to feel :)

The real jewel of a woman

Hello friends,
We all know the significance of shringaar : this adorns a Hindu bride or  a woman.The term shringar is also associated with Goddess Lakshmi, who is a model wife and the representation of female beauty, good luck, prosperity and fertility. Indian women wear her original beauty ornaments in the form of sindoor, laung (nose pin), earrings, bangles, rings, payal and nupur (bichuye). Well if you  dont know the significance and are not wearing any of the shringaar then below is the list of the shringaar and their religious and medical significance:
SINDOOR: sindoor which an Indian married women applies on her middle parting signifies brahmnadi- this brahmnadi is believed to be weak in women’s which unable them to take decisions. Applying sindoor in middle partition means strengthen your ability to take decisions. 
NUPUR(bichuye):nupur which is used to wear in second finger of both the feet’s.the nerve in this toe is believed to  have a nerve running to the uterus which inturn keeps it healthy. It is also believed that the nerve of this finger in which nupur is being worn directly connected to heart.
MANGALSUTRA: It bears an utmost importance in women’s life without this amulet no marriage is completed. It is one of the essential adornments of women which she needs to wear whole of her life as proof of her marriage and bonding with her spouse.Mangalsutra is believed to have divine powers. Each of the black beads in the Mangalsutra, signify protection from evil power and are believed to protect the marriage of a couple, essentially the life of the husband. 
BINDI:is the primary shringar and a sacred symbol of suhag- her husband. Bindi has a very strong implication in women’s life. A dot or point is the abode of Shiva and Shakthi.The bindi is declared to be very helpful for the good health of the brain, eyes, ears and the nose because these applications maintain a fine pull on the veins and nerves underneath the forehead, nose-root and forearm’s skin to monitor proper flow of blood. The forebrain controls the decision making part of the brain. In acupressure methods it is considered to be the most sensitive part of the body responsible for alertness and hence the use of Bindi for the forehead is justified. It also provides warmth to the pituitary glands located near the Thalamus.
NOSE-PIN: also called laung, is the other ornament and shringar which married women wear on her nose.Ayuveda, which is part of the Indian Vedic Scripts, states that Nose too linked with the female reproductive organs; accordingly the nose piercing is supposed to make childbirth easier and lessen period pain during women's natural menstrual course and periods.
MEHENDI:Henna is the next most important shringar of women which is applied on hands and feets. It is believed that the more the colour of henna, the more her husband loves her.It can also help in lowering body temperature and soothe headaches, fevers, burning feet and even hysteria or a violent temper. It can increase the luster of nails, is effective in muscular rigidity and even in Jaundice.
BANGLES:are another symbol of beauty and shringar for married women. Generally gold and red glass bangles are worn by married women which signify sacredness.
Bangle Color : Meaning
1)Red : Energy


2)Blue : Tranquility/Wisdom


3)Purple : Independence


4)Green : Luck/Married Status


5)Yellow : Happiness


6)Orange : Success


7)White : New Beginnings


8)Black : Power


9)Silver : Strength


10)Gold : Fortune


During an Indian wedding, the bride tries to wear the smallest glass bangles. She is helped by her best friend or sister to do this using scented oil. It’s believed that smaller bangles symbolize a happy and loving marriage .Bangles and Husband and Luck – A married Indian woman is required to wear bangles (green or red depending on which region they belong to) on a day to day basis because bangles are symbolic of safety, marriage and luck for their husbands.
So girls remember "A thing of beauty is a joy forever. Its loveliness increases; it will never
Pass into nothingness"  :)

That special person

Hello friends,
Seldom do we come across people who walk into our lives and leave their footprints forever.It would be right to say that they are God sent angels in our lives.Such a special person entered my life too and gifted it with happiness and reverence for him.But the relation which I shared with him was also strange : I still ponder what to name our relation and this confusion erupts in my heart because when we were attending our college together we only knew each other by face,he kept on gazing at me during our classes and as i felt awkward about it I drifted away from him , but slowly n steadily we started communicating and within a year he became a very good friend of mine.We would go for picnic,tea break and chatting often.He regularly visited my home and soon won the hearts of my parents who treated him like their own son.Once it so happened that by the end of our two years of studies he came to my home,that visit which he made on that day had some strange air around it.While I ,he and my dad were chatting , he would often look at me and I could sense easily that he was collecting courage to say something to my dad , but I couldn't read his silence. Well,when he left for his home in nearby town on the very day , he returned back 2 days later only to inform me that his marriage had been fixed by his parents and then he broke up and confessed that he wanted to ask for my hand from my dad that day when he had come to my home,but couldn't collect the courage.But as he was very dedicated to his family,he forsake his love and married the girl of his family's choice and I was happy too as I always looked up to him as my friend in need and indeed.Well, he din't severe his ties with my family and often visited us even after his marriage with & without his family.We had a long relationship of 5 years till I fell in love with a boy and when he came to know of it ,as a true friend he supported me but also showed me the pros and cons of my love as a friend would do.When I was getting married and none of my friends attended my wedding as it was not according to social norms as I was doing an inter-caste marriage, it was him that stood by me and not only this what has still amazed me and left me bewildered till date is that when the priest in the wedding wanted someone to perform a ritual which only a brother could do in a Hindu marriage , my family said that there's no brother I have but then he said pointing out to my friend , that he can perform the role of a brother.I was shocked and suspiciously smiled at him as I knew that he was the very boy who loved me once.But this expression was not reciprocated by him,with a very somber face he religiously accepted the duty and performed the ritual which a brother performs for his sister.What's this relation to be named friends?It is above the status of a friend,a lover and a brother something which can't be named but only felt deep within one's heart.
That's my special person : Siddharth and we have come a long way of 11 years in our relation.A relation which carries no name and reasons to stay together.It just lives and grows with us.
""Never shall i forget the days i spent with you . continue to be my friend, as you will always find me yours."